Parents – Believe it or not, but you are your child’s most persuasive teacher!
COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILDREN – TALK AND LISTEN
Teaching Children Protective Behaviors
Concept of Safe/Unsafe.
We all have the right to feel safe all the time. Discuss what feeling “safe” feels like. How does your body help warn you that you may be in a scary or unsafe situation? (Your stomach feels “funny,” your knees shake, your heart beats hard or fast.) Teach children to trust instincts and say or do whatever they must to take care of themselves. Stress that adventurousness and risk-taking is okay, within the concept of safety. Teach children that we all have a responsibility for other people to feel safe with us also.
Nothing is so awful that we can’t talk with someone about it. Who are your “safe” people? (Trusted others?) Who could you ask for help with any problem? We all need to know at least four people, besides the people we live with, we could ask for help if we have a problem we can’t solve ourselves.
If the first person you ask for help doesn’t believe you or can’t help you – keep asking until someone helps you solve the problem and you feel safe again.
To maintain control and protect privacy, no one should be allowed to blurt out personal experiences in a group. Learn the “protective interrupting” skill if you are working with a group. Stay in the one step removed problem-solving mode (ex. “Today we’re talking about what could someone do if …” or “what would you say if someone told you …” or “a friend of mine needs to know …”)